Potency

“Always leave a place better than the way you found it.” I can hear my mom repeating this to me when I was growing up and even into adulthood. This was a small principle mentioned that helped me consider cleanliness and order. It was drilled in me so much that even to this day, if I travel to a hotel or an Airbnb where housekeeping is available, I still make an effort to tidy up and make the room presentable for housekeeping to do their job.

I have continued growing in this principle of leaving a place better than the way I found it with other areas of my life including my career, ministry, and other non-profit responsibilities. Principles can be manifold. What’s one of the lessons? Stewardship. Walking in stewardship causes us to manage resources well around us. The biggest takeaway for me has been that we carry potency. Think about the similarity of potency to potential. There is something so powerful, so unique, so lasting about us, where we can’t help leaving an imprint.

Like the fragrant smell of a beautiful ointment, perfume, or cologne, we can overwhelmingly impact an environment or with subtle notes leave hints. I think it is up to us and also reflective on what we bring that determines how we leave an environment better.

Brilliant ones, you and I are brilliant lights and uniquely potent. Release your potency and together, let’s continue making the world a better place.

Activate The Principles

There are principles that exist that if activated or put into action produce massive outcomes.

For example:

  1. Give and it will be given to you

  2. Humble yourself and you will be exalted

  3. Be faithful over a few things, then you can rule over much

The list goes on. Many believe that success in life and leadership comes by work, charisma , or intellect alone. It may seem that it is just a matter of putting ideas into action or by just being fortunate but the major glue between work, charisma, ideas and every other productivity factor are principles. A principle is a fundamental truth or proposition that serves as the foundation for a system of belief or behavior or for a chain of reasoning. Principles become the foundation that allows everything else in our lives and leadership to work. Principles are like the hinge on a door. If you don’t have the hinge, the door won’t open. Principles are like keys. If you don’t have keys, you are locked out.

We are living in a time where people want to lead and achieve without principles. There is an understanding that how you do anything is how you do everything. Principles become the charge of how you do everything. The thought that intellect alone or talent alone will allow you to achieve is a fallacy.

This is the missing component at this time that is fueling the issues we see personally, politically, professionally, racially, etc. There is a subtle thought that we can be successful without principles. We must grab principles and institute them in every area of our lives.

Are you principle deficient? Have there been thoughts that have been released to stifle the light of principles in your life? Take some time today and evaluate your principles. Determine to learn some new principles. Activate strong principles today and watch how your life and leadership takes a new course.

A Superior Diet

‘You are what you eat.” You probably have heard this saying before.  It is the notion that if you desire to be healthy and live a healthy lifestyle you should eat wholesome foods. I like this saying but I also know that this proverb applies to more than just ingestion of food.

Brilliant individuals desire a superior diet.  Have you noticed that brilliant people are meticulous about their diet? I am not just referring to food that is consumed by the mouth, but food that is ingested by the ears and eyes. Brilliant individuals desire the best from top notch advisory services to the best mattress. The concept is that with great inputs one can achieve even greater outputs.

Knowledge is a diet.  Television is a diet.  Relationships are a diet.  Friends are a diet.  Music is a diet.  Social Media is a diet. Atmospheres are a diet.  Nature is a diet. We are constantly ingesting and tables are set before us daily. What are you chewing on? Meditating on? What is it that is feeding your inner man and causing you to live in fullness and be healthy? What are the things cultivating your brilliance?

I challenge you today to develop a superior diet.  Choose wisely! Fill your plate with wholesome goodness from the table that is set and then….…..Bon appetit! 

 

Culture Risk

As a risk professional working with strategic risk in the private sector, it is my responsibility to understand existing risks and emerging risks that may have a negative impact upon my business. There is a risk that has recently taken the forefront. This risk has always existed, but now leaders are being challenged to grasp it. This risk is culture risk. What is culture risk? It is the threat or potential harm that takes place when there’s misalignment between an organization’s values and leader actions, employee behaviors, or organizational systems. What’s my definition of culture risk? It is the risk of damage when leaders fail to practice what they preach, allow inappropriate behavior to remain prevalent within the environment they lead, or allow systems and processes to become dysfunctional. It also relates when systems and processes are misaligned.

Why is culture risk appearing on everyone’s radar? Culture risk is a hot topic because it is the silent killer of any organization or effort. Over the past few years we have seen in the news breakdowns within all types of organizations because toxicity was allowed to exist within the culture. In hindsight individuals raised their hands and stated that there were problems related to culture. A breakdown in culture can expose an organization to all types of negative consequences including disengaged members, stunted growth, reputational damage, and even dissolution. Poor culture affects the bottom line. This concept of culture is not just applicable to Fortune 500 Companies or large institutions. This applies to small businesses, non-profits, religious institutions, and even familial relationships.

There’s a saying from Song of Songs that states, “its the small foxes that destroy the vine.” What does that mean? A fox is is not a ferocious animal. A fox is very unassuming but to a well producing vineyard, the fox is a destructive animal. Even a small fox has the ability to destroy a valuable vineyard. In context, small overlooked behaviors, habits, and ways of being impact culture and culture impacts the end goal you are seeking to achieve.

So why am I blogging about this topic? As leaders, whether we are leading at home, in business, charity, religious institutions, sports, schools, the military, or in the community, we must understand the impact of culture and the atmospheres created around us. We can not afford to become blind or turn our heads to matters or behaviors that exist around us. Brilliant leaders understand culture. Brilliant leaders guard culture. Brilliant leaders steward and drive culture. What are the things that you promote to ensure that your culture is positive? What are the things that you have failed to consider? What are the things that you are afraid to address? Do you have your finger on the pulse of your organization or the effort that you are leading? Do you have a way to identify, monitor, and manage what’s going on related to culture? How do you gain comfort that what you think of your environment is the reality? If someone raised their hand, would you listen and give them comfort to speak without retaliation? These are few questions to ponder when you are considering culture.

2020 is about building. Whatever you build, eventually a culture will evolve. A healthy culture shapes for healthy outcomes. Brilliant ones, lets stay alert as we are building and keep those beautiful vineyards from invading foxes that wreak destruction.

Synergy

Father, Son, and Holy Spirit.

Jimmy Jam and Terry Lewis.

Batman and Robin.

Shaq and Kobe.

Regis and Kelly.

Joshua and Caleb.

Will and Jada.

Elijah and Elisha.

The list goes on and on. Each of the aforementioned represent unique duos or trios that have captured our attention by their talent, skill, authority, expertise, and mega success. Though each of the individuals are dynamic alone, I am convinced that they stepped to another level of impact due to mastering one thing: synergy. The combined effect of the duos and trios have proven greater than the sum of their separate efforts.

We are wired in western civilization to strive at times for individual success. There is nothing wrong with individual success and some efforts are best achieved individually.  I am an advocate for being a self starter and taking responsibility for one’s talent and purpose.  We should soar beyond the mountain tops as individuals. However, there are opportunities as a leader, partner, entrepreneur, friend, team member, coach, boss, ministry leader, or even employee, where if you are able to connect and build synergy, there is combustion. Great things happen. Productivity becomes exponential. If you consider the duos and trios mentioned, many of them have spent the majority of their assignments working with the same partner(s) and achieved an optimization that they couldn’t achieve by themselves. They stepped into the zone called synergy.

What really is needed to achieve synergy is a healthy understanding of what you have to offer and how that coupled with what someone else has to offer produces another level of effect. Insecurity is the killer of synergy. Pride and selfishness are also killers of a vision and synergy.

I do realize that we are in the age where we must discern connections. Fakers, haters, and everything in between have us throwing up the peace sign and saying “I’m good” as we journey to build. Sometimes we must walk alone, but I also know that a massive vision is never carried out solo. One can put a thousand to flight. Two, ten thousand to flight. Something happens when we connect with the right people.

Put it on your list of goals for 2020. Where there is an opportunity to build synergy, strive for it. Nurture it. Then move forward and produce exponentially.

Extraordinary

There’s a hook in a song I know that says “the ordinary just won’t do.” Brilliant people are extraordinary. Extraordinary means to be unusual or remarkable.  Remarkable means to be noteworthy; worthy of notice or attention.  Ordinary people live and face circumstances and seemingly stay boxed in where extraordinary people are able to take even regular circumstances and handle them in a way that people say “wow, did you see that.”  Extraordinary people soar.  The earth is waiting for a manifestation of individuals who are not ordinary.  It takes a different mindset. It takes a different spirit.  Ponder this today. Are you ordinary or extraordinary?  Don’t get me wrong. I am not advocating becoming an attention seeker or people pleaser. I am not advocating vain motives. I do believe you are graced to do something unusual; something remarkable.

There is nothing wrong with being ordinary, but there’s also nothing wrong with being EXTRA.  Make your mark. Establish your footprint. Selah.

The Sojourner

Last week, I watched the newly released movie “Harriet”, which is a movie inspired by the life of abolitionist Harriet Tubman. The movie highlighted Harriet’s determination and willingness to pursue her heart’s desire of freedom.  One of the touching moments within the movie was when she left her husband and ran for freedom. Later she returned for him. Unfortunately he had remarried and didn’t want to go with her on the journey. Historically, it is noted that her husband was not an advocate for her leaving slavery.

I reflect on this as often we receive great vision, ideas, and concepts as leaders and we want our loved ones, friends, and colleagues to catch the vision or to even come with us on the journey. We desire that they adapt to our mentality. We desire that they embrace our prosperity. Many, by choice, do not go on the journey. This can be for various reasons. Simply put: they weren’t supposed to go.

More times than not, our gifts and call are not for the familiar. Our gifts are for those who are unfamiliar with us.

Just like Harriet, we must find the resolve to move forward, even if we go alone.   There is a saying that being alone does not equal loneliness.  When you are full of purpose and full of brilliant light, you recognize that there will be ones that you are called to.  Just like Harriet to the slaves,  Moses to the Children of Israel, or the Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. to African Americans,  you will find those who you are called to and will go with you for the journey.

Whatever the purpose or the call, BE bold, BE brave. Lead Brilliantly.

Be Ye Also Ready

Brilliant ones!!! Unexpected things are on the horizon. I believe this strongly!! What will it take?

Readiness.  It is a concept that we know about but maybe it is not at the forefront of our thoughts. Readiness plays an important part in our next.  Readiness is having an expectation that something will happen and being prepared for it. Have you heard the saying be ye also ready?  It comes from a scripture where Jesus encouraged His disciples to prepare and reiterated that He might appear in an hour that was least expected.  Isn’t that typically how opportunities, blessings, and breakthroughs work? They appear when least expected.  Most of us have small hints or inclinations about things we should work on or prepare.  We either pay little attention to the hints or want to hurry up and get the preparation over.  Brilliant ones, we are in a strong season of preparedness.  What are you getting ready for?  I know what I am getting ready for and it takes a couple of things.   Readiness takes a plan or a blueprint.  Readiness takes practice. Readiness takes time.  Readiness takes focus.  Readiness may require feedback.  The list may swell or lessen. Whatever it takes, let’s BE READY and when opportunity comes we will step forward with full confidence.

The Refiner: Failure

It is exciting to watch babies grow to the point where they start learning how to walk.   We observe their efforts, curiosity, and eagerness. The baby attempts to stand up, typically big-eyed and drooling, holding on to objects, bumping into things, and falling on their bum. There is a tenacity with a baby that is interesting to watch. They don’t give up. They press in.  They push their way and eventually they are walking. No one ever mentions to the baby, “hey, you have fallen 652 times, so you won’t ever walk.” Somehow, within their inner being, they keep trying.

Another happy moment is when a child is learning to ride a bike.  The child, who is fully decked in a helmet and knee pads, wobbles on a bike until they are able to ride it with full balance, control, and no training wheels.  Never is failure discussed in most cases or even considered though there are falls and half-successful attempts. It’s apart of the process.

Somewhere in our growth process as we add age, education, and other accomplishments,  we develop a layer of pride where the sense of failing or not getting attempts right becomes more tangible and the pain of not accomplishing the end goal more excruciating. We grow ashamed to admit that it has happened and “failing” is equated to some end of who we are as a person or our worth.  What I have come to understand is that failure is necessary. 

Just like the baby that presses beyond the countless falls to learn to walk or the child that has to keep pressing to ride a bike, life presents circumstances where we fail. I have a new perspective on failure.   Failure never defines you but refines you.

I have failed. I know what it looks like. I know what it feels like but I wouldn’t have the wisdom, character, strength, or be able to move in another dimension without failure. I am able to say with full confidence that failure is necessary for shaping and forming of any brilliant leader.  Embrace your story which includes falling down. It includes failure.  Do you want to shine?  Let failure buff and refine.

Give Me Eyes to See

One of the unique gifts I have that manifested as a young child is a good sense of direction.  My mom, who I believe is a little directionally challenged in driving, would sit me in the passenger seat of her car and rely on me to give her directions around town.  Though I was not the driver, I had the ability to recognize landmarks, turns, streets, and signs and I would literally say “you need to turn there.”  She didn’t mind it at all.  I became her riding buddy.  Even though I was not the dominant person driving the vehicle, without my eyes and vision, we would not have made it to our destination.   Leading brilliantly is correlated.  Leadership requires that someone can see and give direction. The person who sees may not be the dominant person. The dominant person may need an ear to hear.  I am not being rude with my statement, but there is a cliché that says “the blind can’t lead the blind.” Who is it that has a unique ability to see? I am not referring to just natural sight but inspirational sight.  Who is it that has the fortitude to recognize what is going on and give direction? Where do you turn? What do you do?  Who can see the potential that lies in people, opportunities, or even resources?  Shining lights are one thing, but if you can’t SEE the light, what good is it?   

There is a new possibility that is right before you. There is a new perspective that is waiting for you but only if you could actually see it or maybe it is for someone else to see it.  As you are approaching whatever task or circumstance that is set before you, simply utter “give me eyes to see”.  The unique thing about this is that the direction may come to you directly or to the eyes of the person sitting in your figurative passenger’s seat.  Whether it is your eyes or their eyes, you can’t get to your destination without good direction.

Are You Serious?

A common phrase echoed back to a person sharing details of a scenario that seems unrealistic or to convey utter shock that a situation has played out the way it has is “are you serious?”  Another play on the word serious is when we meet individuals who come across as intense and it is said, “they are way too serious.”  I have spent some time thinking about what I should be serious about.

After reaching a milestone birthday recently, I starting reassessing many aspects of my life.  I realize that time is flying fast.  All things considered, when you count the value of your days and all that has to be accomplished in them,  I thought to myself ‘I gotta get serious.’  What do I mean when I say serious ? When I think about being serious, I think about focus. Prioritization. Weight.  Discipline. Consistency.  Webster’s defines serious as 1) of showing or characterized by deep thought; 2) requiring thought concentration of application and/or 3) weighty or important.  Because life is filled with so many activities, interests, ideas of curiosity, goals, distractions, responsibilities, fantasies, and even mundaneness, we can find ourselves wandering or engaged in life with meager attempt.  Brilliant individuals are able to quickly assess what they count as serious and what isn’t serious.  Is your business or career a serious matter? What about your faith and health? Are your relationships and finances a serious matter? What about your self care?  Are conversations and contemplation a serious matter? The list goes on and on.  The beauty of it all is that you are able to define what is serious to you.  I can not define what it is for you, but I ask the question today, ‘are you serious?” You are the one who defines what is weighty. 

Becoming sensitive in this area may require admitting that there are areas that have been shrugged away as non-important or ignored that should have more attention.  Asking the question can reset focus and eliminate mindless activities and wasting of a precious commodity known as time.

I leave with this thought from Psalm 90:12:

12 So teach us to number our days
that we may get a heart of wisdom.

Days….We only have a few of them, so let us use them wisely.

Words

There are intricate units of language that fill our days. These units fit together like a puzzle and frame our communication and also our world. What are these units? They are known as words.  Words are not just vehicles of communication, but vehicles for brilliance.  How do words impact our leadership and our ability to be brilliant?  Words have ‘weight’ to attract darkness or light. There is a psalm that states, “your word is a lamp unto my feet, a light unto my path”.  This psalm indicates that word or words can be infused with light and also have the ability to produce light and clarity specifically for direction and what’s up ahead.  Considering this, when was the last time that you observed words spoken or even words around you?  These words can apply to several areas of your life: your health, personality, leadership, company, and friendships to name a few.  The list goes on and on. Speak them. Write them. Define them. Hang them up around you. Surround yourself with words. Meditate on words. Why? Because words frame you. Words equal brilliance.

A Beehive Called Mediocrity

I recently encountered a beehive called mediocrity.  When you think of a beehive, you are presented two opportunities: one for sweetness and honey or another can be a painful attack. As a leader, you realize quickly that a decision must be made.  Do you become the ‘influencer/troubler’ (the person who stirs the beehive and leads the hive to new actions, beliefs, and ways of doing) or do you hear the collective cries that state “we’ve always done it this way” or " let us be”?  Will the outcome of your leadership produce honey like that which is found in the choicest of hives or leave a sharp bitter pain because of numerous stings? 

I am reminded of a wise teacher who spoke of entering a city.  He noted that he could not accomplish the work he was gifted to accomplish amongst the people because of unbelief and familiarity. Unbelief and familiarity become the pillars of mediocrity.  The teacher offered much to the people but the people settled for comfort.  They rejected his wise teachings and became a source of resistance to his leadership.  In turn, the teacher noted that he couldn’t accomplish work in that city. He quickly exited and pursued other opportunities.

As leaders we must discern whether our leadership in an opportunity or atmosphere has the potential for sweet honey and victory or bitterness and tragedy. There are risks at every corner and challenges in leadership.  No work of leadership is 100% victory at every moment but eventually there should be evidence that your presence as a leader creates beautiful synergies and impacts for positive outcomes.  Your leadership should be value add.  Are you connected with those who believe in you, your abilities, and what you stand for? If not, will your attempt of leadership bring disruption that stirs a hive to attack?  What will become of your attempts?

Some atmospheres will never change or accept what you bring. Some atmospheres are not hungry enough to step out of what has become a comfortable norm.   Take some time this week to assess whether you are connecting with people and atmospheres that receive your brilliance or attack your brilliance.  At some point you must be willing to shake the dust from your feet and move forward to the place where your gifts, leadership, and excellence are received and flourish the most. Take time today to consider if your gifts are tied because of mediocrity. What good is brilliant light if it is smothered by a pseudo darkness known as mediocrity.

Like a B.O.S.S.- Build on Something Solid

We are in the age of the “BOSS”.  Many are using the term to describe a person who not only leads people or has people reporting to them, but also to describe a person demonstrating the ability to make great strides in entrepreneurship.  I believe individuals have the opportunity to be a “BOSS” in any aspect of life.  The key to this is: Build on Something Solid.  Solid foundations enable us to be wise builders.  What do I mean when I say have a solid foundation?  There was a story given by a wise teacher who instructed his followers that if they heeded his words and put his words to practice, they would be like a wise man who built his house on the rock. Afterwards the rain came, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against the house but the house did not fall because it had its foundation on the rock.  The teacher understood that he offered principles that were sound and were sturdy and if his followers adhered to his principles, they would be able to face obstacles but not fail.

In the excitement of our times, most of us desire greatness and some level of accomplishment with the work of our hands. This is possible but how many stop to consider the foundation first? Have you assessed what values, beliefs, habits, and processes you adhere to that will allow you to be successful? Have you assessed if there are areas that need strengthening? Are you aware of the time commitment necessary to have a solid foundation?  Most foundations must be allowed to ‘settle’. 

Considering these questions, my thought today is if you desire to be a “BOSS”, then Build on Something Solid.

Seek a solid spiritual foundation. Seek a solid foundation in knowledge and wisdom that is enhanced by curiosity. Seek a solid foundation in technical expertise and agility. Seek a solid business plan with a solid product or service.  Seek a solid foundation with great processes.  Seek a solid value system. Seek solid communication.  All of these produce for a great foundation and will undergird whatever you seek to accomplish.  Then as you move forward, when the unexpected trials and storms approach, whatever has been built can be sustained because in the end, you know the foundation is sure.  Brilliant ones, let’s go build, but build on something solid!

Growing in Decision Quality

Life is a series of decisions. In 2019, decision quality is at the top of the list of needed skills to excel in relationships or business.  Success is the accumulation of decisions.   Quality decision making is a skill that is necessary to lead brilliantly.  This skill can grow and be groomed over time.  This skill is often taught through association, experience, and even through methods (agile methodology is the new buzz).   I have listed below a set of incisive questions to help you assess your decision making style and through the answering of the questions, you can further pin point target areas for growth.

  1. What is your unique decision making style?

  2. Do you incorporate intelligence, emotion, experience, or intuition? Do you lean on one more than the others?

  3. Do you set aside enough time to properly vet your decisions or incorporate enough independent opinions to help shape your decisions?

  4. How do you determine if you have a blind spot?

  5. How would you rate your past decisions? What were the end results (short term and long term)?

  6. Have you identified any known cycles, patterns, or behaviors that are detrimental or beneficial?

  7. Are your decisions timely or is there a tendency to procrastinate?

These are just a few questions to ponder concerning the topic. From your experience, what are other things to consider to improve/grow in decision quality?  Please share your views in the comments below.

The Art of Treating People Well

“Love your neighbor as you love yourself”. This is a command and principle I have heard over and over again since I was a little girl and I have even repeated the saying.  You can repeat a principle verbally without really understanding how to execute the principle in day to day interactions.  Earlier this week as I was sitting at my desk, a thought came to mind about this principle and soon thereafter a phrase came to mind: the art of treating people well.  As I look back through my formal education, spiritual upbringing, and even professional development, I noted that there was NEVER a class or course offered or an extended emphasis on how to treat people.  I believe our society equates this as a principle that should be taught in the child rearing years. 

Most service oriented businesses are employing some type of training around this topic.  The sheer nature of customer interfacing and the desire to deliver exceptional service has economic implications. People like great service and will pay for great service. But how many individuals have the desire to become artful masters at treating people well just because?  How many have embraced this as a way of leading in life? As I further contemplated this topic I looked to those who I admire who in my opinion were/are great leaders (Jesus, Mother Teresa, Oprah, and a list of others) and found that one of the common things they were exceptional at was treating people well. I could give countless examples.  Be it through their service, philanthropy, or teachings, at the root of it is love and a desire to treat others exceptionally regardless of whether they deserve it.  As we aspire to lead brilliantly, let us not forget the strength and brilliance of serving, loving, generously giving, forgiving, and impacting others because we simply treat them the way we would treat ourselves.

iLead....

I like leading. I really do.  I recently gained an understanding that leadership is a value within my internal value system. It is an intricate part of who I am. I realized that I could stop apologizing for this trait. I have dissected this reality wanting to understand what was the driver behind my desire to lead.    “Oh you must be type A” or “wow, you are assertive” some might say.  Leadership can be associated with these sayings. Leadership can be associated with power and control. Some like to lead because it allows them to be out front. These are relevant factors related to leadership but I realized that power and control were not motivating factors for me.  As I began to look introspectively, I asked questions and finally came up with an answer as to what really drives my desire to lead.  Dictionary.com defines “lead” as to go before or with to show the way; conduct or escort.  I like the word escort.  An escort is a person who typically accompanies another on a journey with the desire to get the individual to a destination safely, informed, and empowered.   There is also typically a desire to show honor when you escort a person. This is what motivates me.  I love clarity and those who provide it. I love the feeling of being placed on a correct path towards a destination or having undergirded someone else on their path in excellence.    How are you escorting the world around you?  Do you realize that this is leadership? Do you realize that you can escort others in just about anything: in the workplace, at home, or in your community? Lead with knowledge related to your hobbies. Lead with your style and fashion. Lead with your beliefs. I am purposing to lead (escort) in this season. Thus iLead……. will you lead?